At this point in my life
I could care less if people think I’m a bitch or if they don’t like what I’m doing. You can talk all the trash you want from the sidelines but we both know that if you were thrown into the situations and opportunities I created for myself, you’d run away like the coward that you are.
As you get older, it becomes harder to maintain friendships and live the life you once had. Especially when you spend your time working and researching instead of partying. Many people my age are in that point in their life when they just “want to have fun” and get “shit face wasted” and don’t understand why I’m never around anymore. Instead of doing all of that (which regardless of the situation, doesn’t sound too appealing) I’m busting my ass to make my dreams come true and making sure my career is set up to my standards. Yes, it’s stressful and yes, i’m not in the best mood all of the time but I know that it’s worth it. Everyday I cross another “to do” off of the list and I know I’m one step closer. As soon as it all comes to the surface people will want to be in my life again. Hell, ever since I really started working in the industry people were already becoming my conditional friends. Instead of just ignoring it, I said something and if standing up for yourself makes you a bad person, be a bad person. No one has the right to dictate how you live your life. I will never allow someone to think I’m just some stupid girl who can’t handle it but we all know that I’ve accomplished way more at the age of 20 than you ever will.
I’ve truly realized who my real best friends are. I can count them on one hand and I’m good with that. Friendships are about quality, not quantity.
As my favorites, sleeping with sirens once said ” if you can’t hang then, there’s the door, baby.”
In This Business…
It’s all about who you know and how you treat people. You could be the best musician out there but if you don’t network and out yourself out there, nothing is going to happen. This is an industry where you rely on the outside world because to make it, they need to believe in you more than you believe in yourself.
You also need to be nice to people. I don’t care who you “are” or who you think you “are” but being mean, rude, disrespectful, unprofessional and everything other negative thing will get you no where real fast. Word spreads in this industry fast, especially the music community of Minnesota. One false word or action and you can end your career as quickly as it took off. You can’t expect to be taken seriously as a musician if you can’t sell your share of tickets, promote to your show, pay your dues and if you can’t go five seconds without complaining about someone or something.
I was completely taken advantage of in this situation and not only did you ruin your professional relationship with me but our personal one as well. You can keep the negative comments and bullshit to yourself because you’re on your own from now on. Neesh and myself helped you out because we were friends and instead of doing your part and saying a simple “Thank You” you developed egos that didn’t fit your musical standing and screwed us over.
It’s like my favorite person, The Merch Dude one tweeted ” I can always tell how long a band is going to last by how many times they say ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’